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Sobering Reality

I certainly don't want to sound ominous with this title. The reality of being a parent to an adult child can be so gratifying, and that relationship can be refreshing, as well as the subsequent respective relationship with their (potential) grandchildren. That reality is the one we presume as our child matures and develops. Because of their success personally and professionally; their functional independence; and the mutual respect and investment in furthering a friendship between now adult children and older parents.

Additionally, in that relationship, there is an acknowledgment from each that the parents contributed to that success. That the parents positively affected the child's mental, physical, emotional and financial state. Which causes the adult children to look forward to sharing their achievements. Which causes the parents to glow with pride because of not only what the child did, but privately knowing they helped them get there.

I want that scenario with my kids (and it is coming to fruition, though they are still young adults); because I am an adult child of parents who can feel that way themselves - so, I can easily envision it.

Yet still, I intentionally choose "sobering." In part because I see too many instances where the described scenario does not play out that way. The child's transition to adulthood is painful because they feel they are not quite prepared for what it entails (and in too many instances, are not). And the young adult is not getting encouragement or counsel from a known source whose unquestioned motive is their success. Or, the child views their negatives as a direct result of what their p